There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later. As a smart, beautiful, successful, and sweet woman in her 30's so many people tell me I'm a total catch. And yet, I'm single Which at many times has left me confused and uncertain about what's happening and how I should act in an increasingly fragmented and seemingly nonsensical dating world. I found "The Love Gap" an incredibly insightful resource to understanding what's happening and how as a modern woman I can put myself in the best possible situation for a happy, healthy relationship. Here were a few parts of the book that I found most helpful: The analysis of the societal shifts that influence how men view themselves and why we see more "not ready" for a serious relationship men for much longer periods of time--into their 30s and even 40s.
Through this book, I can now more quickly discern a "ready" from a "not ready" man and skip a lot of drama. I love how through advice and most of all real-life stories, "The Love Gap," guides you on the path of trusting your gut. It's so hard when there's so much dating advice and so many opinions from others about what you should do or what should make you happy. One of the most powerful, actionable parts of this book is around recognizing ready, "Real Deal" men and knowing how to interact with them.
What I discovered through reading this book is that a lot of dating advice is awful--it teaches you how to be fake so that you don't scare off "not ready" men. This is horrible because you're unhappy in the process and unwittingly keeping around men who will reinforce unhappiness.
Talk about a recipe for paranoia and misery. Instead, "The Love Gap," encourages you to be open, honest, authentic and direct. The exact same qualities that will annoy and scare away men not ready for commitment will make you HUGELY attractive to men who are ready to commit to a quality relationship with you. I have actually tested out the communicating authentically theory in my recent dating and the results are amazing. I completely annoy men who are unready--they unmatch me. But men who are amazing, attractive, confident, and looking for a real relationship are like, "Wow!
I highly encourage any single woman to check out this book. I think you'll find it encouraging and freeing and an insightful guide to how to navigate our current dating world in an authentic way. I was in a relationship with a Mr. He was, on paper, "all that. But something was missing. Seriously, and this is all thanks to Jenna. She's interviewed experts and couples and read through dense social research papers to give you the digestible wisdom to live your best life.
Her book is the best friend you wish you had to help you through everything in life: You need to read this book. I was really excited about this book but alas, it wasn't what I had hoped.
Maybe a good read for a gal in her early 20s, but probably not for a woman in her late 20s and beyond. The writer has a warm, approachable style. The writer crafted these five "roles" that men play in women's lives and really oversimplified the relationships. I get that there are trends out there, but I couldn't really relate to most of these. She generally classified the men as fragile, threatened creatures who couldn't date bright, successful women except for her "real deal" character.
I think men are more complex and deserve more credit than this. I don't think a 25 year-old girl is "still single. She's not "still" single. Dating around at that age seems totally appropriate. It was such a shallow portrayal - at one point she said, "we aren't perfect. We do sometimes spend too much money on lipstick at Sephora" I think women are a bit more complex than that, with additional flaws beyond "Sephora overdose. See all 18 reviews. See all customer images. Most recent customer reviews.
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Never Chase Men Again: There's a problem loading this menu right now. Get fast, free shipping with Amazon Prime. Your recently viewed items and featured recommendations. View or edit your browsing history. Habits weigh them down. Research about how long romance lasts tends to vary. But most arrive at the same conclusion: A group of Italian scientists found that neuropeptides — molecules associated with the euphoria of love — returned to normal levels within 12 to 24 months of being in a romantic relationship.
Another group of neurobiologists found that levels of hormones such as cortisol change upon falling in love and return to normal levels after 12 to 18 months.
Other researchers found that people in a relationship for On the other hand, in , researchers at Stony Brook University conducted a meta-analysis of 25 studies of romantic lovers who were college age or older. Whatever the lucky number, the reality is that over one-third of marriages do not make it to a year silver anniversary. And even without the work of social scientists at hand, Nietzsche understood that, in many cases, romantic passion fades.
As a solution, he suggested banning marriage for a couple in the initial throes of romantic passion.
Sexual attraction is undoubtedly an important part of romance. But from a Nietzschean perspective, strong-willed people enjoy the intoxication of loving, but have the big picture in mind: Nietzsche suggested that intellectual attraction would provide a deeper and more durable foundation for relationships than sex appeal.
Research suggests that the ability to communicate is central to relationship durability. A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology suggested that negative communication is one of the key culprits of divorce. Another study found — unsurprisingly — that couples who criticized and yelled at each other early in the marriage had higher divorce rates. Nietzsche warned that by presenting ourselves in highly curated ways, we risk becoming victims of our own acting skills because we have to become our masks in order to sustain the illusions we create.
In the process, we sacrifice authenticity. If lovers were better friends, relationships would be healthier. Great friends support and encourage each other to look beyond themselves, to achieve their goals and to become better people. Being Well Together — Manchester, Manchester. In conversation with Emma Butt — York, York. Uber and What The People Want: Available editions United Kingdom. Cleary , Columbia University. Tired romance The fundamental problem with modern Western coupling is the ideal that romantic love culminates in marriage — and will last forever.