To be constantly on guard against terrorist attacks, not to mention crises that hit us on a personal level, is exhausting. But in the midst of this While we may be tempted to turn to food, shopping, busyness, even family, God is the only answer we can count on. He is our source for peace, comfort, and confidence in the midst of chaos. Jill Briscoe encourages the hurting and weary to run unencumbered into the arms of God. And this all-encompassing peace that may seem so elusive right now will become yours to stay. Things I say to her are so not pleasing.
But I do know that you can meet your inner experience with love and acceptance. Slow things down, so you are able to make conscious choices about what you really want. Thanks for writing, Cinthia. Maybe you can reflect back to him that this may be what is going on and help him get connected with a counselor in your local area, possibly at his school, so he has a safe place to talk.
And maybe you can also see a counselor if you think that will support you. Wishing you the best…. He does so much for me and my family. My little sister just moved in with us and he does everything he can for us as do I. Nobody can make me as angry as he can.. I accidentally spilled water on the floor, cleaned it up and after 2 minutes of trying to wake him up, I lost it again. I told him how pissed off he was making me and told him he needs to be a man and learn how to wake himself up and I told him to get his life together even though he works almost 50 hours a week and I called him a POS.
Maybe you need to look more deeply at the sources of this anger, Emily. Slow things down so you can see how you get triggered and what feelings arise.
At least for all the go-getters out there. Learning to Speak God from Scratch. This is very much great and hope fully nice blog. Homesickness is unavoidable, and you will have down days on the road just like you did at home. And that, fortunately, happens to be readily available and effective. Wow Scott — I am humbled to be included in such great company. Quite apart from the fact that I became a Zen Master 20 years later, the way Zen has shaped my life and work has given me a strong sense of purpose and a huge zest for life.
Then take care of yourself. After losing all of my money about k to the stock market and then gambling and accruing 20k in debt I have reached a rock bottom in my life. Anger is so prevalent but so is depression, PTSD, anxiety all the shit that is said. Regardless, I find meditation to help me feel calm and happy for about an hour out of my days. I am 25 so I am young in a general sense yet I feel old, I feel I missed the ticket. Every moment is fresh and offers a new opportunity. And the opportunity is to begin making choices so that your life is more aligned with what you really want.
You might start by reflecting on what you really want. What are your priorities? What is most important to you? Discover these values, then keep them in the forefront of your mind as you make choices moving forward. All is not lost. Take responsibility and be conscious in the moments of your life.
I reached this site because I too am tired of over reacting and erupting easily. My boyfriend used to carry a lot of anger soon after we met, I assume it was from his past or frustration for not being able to get his life on track. I became angry from all the past pain that often surfaced.
Now I have become the monster. Get very curious about how you are triggered, Zam. So slow everything down. Get to know how this anger feels in your body. And when it comes, bring your attention to it inside and breathe with the sensations until they relax. This absolutely possible for you…. About 4 months ago, I found out my girlfriend was intimate with one of my best friends right before we started dating. I feel fooled and lied to. I feel I cannot trust her and I cannot be emotionally present anymore.
I feel confused about her feelings towards me and feel I cannot trust her when she tells me she loves me. It keeps replaying in my head and it keeps coming up as we are all in the same community. I feel embarrassed and ashamed. I now find myself questioning her intentions and am suspicious of her all the time. In a way, I feel cheated but I do not know how to express that to her. I am becoming more and more emotionally distant as I continue to harbour these feelings, and that is starting to cause deeper relational problems for us.
My suggestion would be for you to see a counselor in your local area — either for you alone or as a couple with your girlfriend. If you both are trying to stay together, there is some repair work that needs to happen so you can come together again and trust.
Every relationship has storms, and we all need to learn how to weather them. Whether this one is a deal breaker for you or not, only you can know. I hear a real desire in you to somehow come to peace, and I support that unconditionally. Maybe you are angry about other things in your life and you are taking it out on him.
It is very serious when you say that you think about killing yourself.
You need to seek out help right away. You can go to a school counselor, tell a doctor or nurse, call a mental health counselor and ask for help, or here is the national suicide hotline — there are people there trained to help people like you. I am now not mad at him anymore we had to fix some stuff but we are better now I am not angry at him no more and we both are happy now.
Thank you very much!!!!! Thanks so much for writing in, Brad. I understand this problem with anger. Ever since I dropped out of college, my anger and sadness grew to the point where I lived each day feeling more and more hostile. My loved ones became victims of my outbursts of frustration. I believed the source of my anger was from the people who surrounded me which initiated and escalated numerous arguments.
What brought me to this article was my recent fight with my girlfriend.
Keep meeting the anger you feel inside over and over with this wisdom. You need to make a decision that anger is not going to be in charge. Take charge with a bigger and wiser part of you that wants peace and harmony. And do this every time anger comes — eventually it gets the message to subside. My oldest son is afraid to bring his girlfriend around and both of my boys are showing signs of my anger in their lives. I think my family would be better off without me.
I really encourage you to get some professional help, Kenny. Using these skills starts with the intention to not want your anger to explode the way it does. Even, and especially, in those moments of the volcano, you have to want connection more than anger.
You have to stop justifying why you are right and the other is wrong. You have to start getting humble.
These changes CAN happen. I suggest finding a counselor in your local area to help you or contact me at gail gailbrenner. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email. You can find these Guided Audio Meditations — Now Available!
Anger has a strong physical component. Here are some strategies to help you soften the story: Open up with compassion to everyone involved, including yourself. Recognize that you are bringing the past into the present by repeating the story endlessly. Bring your full attention into the sensations you are experiencing in the moment. Commit to bringing all your actions in alignment with what you really, really want. Anger comes from an overblown sense of self-importance. Am I really right? Does this wanting to be right serve me — and others? What does it mean to want my own way?
What are the implications? Unexplored anger can mute your experience of life. Anger can transform into useful action. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with others and sign up to receive FREE articles, guided meditations, and access to key insights from Gail's book, The End of Self-Help. Comments My anger was killing me literally. Thank you so much for posting here, Chris.
I hear how challenging these things are for you. I wish you the very best on this journey. In love and support….