Gay and straight men may form friendshipts to give and receive advice from one another. Research suggests that advice sharing could be why straight women seek out gay men as friends. Pictures is Sean Avery left and Andy Cohen right who are very good friends. We propose gay-straight male friendships are not only possible, but that they can grow to be extremely rewarding.
So rather than focusing on the factors that prevent these friendships, we've decided to focus on why they might form and flourish. While it's still too early for our team to be sure about our theories, here's what we'll be exploring in our current and future studies. In some ways, when it comes to 'bromosexual' friendships, the onus is on straight men. If they're open-minded about befriending gay men and make the effort to try to forge friendships based upon common interests, gay men should feel more comfortable reciprocating.
So which straight men are the most likely to befriend gay men, and vice versa? And what determines whether these friendships prosper? For one, the timing of when these friendships form may be crucial. We know that gay men are now coming out at an earlier age. Gay men who disclose their sexual orientation to their straight male friends earlier in life may be able to build more open and honest friendships with them into adulthood. Second, recent research has argued that gender and sexual orientation might not be as black and white as previously thought, which opens up new avenues for exploring how gay and straight men can relate to one another.
If a straight guy and his gay male friend are less rigid about their masculinity and sexuality, they'll probably be more likely to discuss details about their sexual and romantic lives openly with one another. These discussions are particularly important because they normalize same-gender attraction.
Or are already there? I think of them as brother's and sisters. Now that we are good friends, he and I, along with his wife and my husband can joke about his eye candy status without anyone feeling anxious, fearful , or threatened. My first glimpse of my straight male friend the one who complained about my hugging was in the locker room and, yikes, the showers! The friends saw one another as important sources of support and they expected their friendships to be long-lasting. The results, published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences 'revealed that more attractive targets were more likely to be sexually deceived by straight men and competitively deceived by women.
Very pretty women have gay male best friends because they can't trust straight men who will try to 'sexually exploit' them, a study has found. Researchers also found the most attractive females were unpopular with other women.
Other, less attractive women felt threatened, or feared they would steal their boyfriends, researchers found. The study, by researchers at the University of Texas at Arlington, was in two parts. The first asked 68 young women to be photographed in form-hugging clothes.
Their photos were then assessed by a panel who rated them on a scale of 1 to 10 for attractiveness. Then these photos were shown to a group of people comprising heterosexual men and women — who were asked how much they agreed with the statements, on a scale of 1 to 7. The results, published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences 'revealed that more attractive targets were more likely to be sexually deceived by straight men and competitively deceived by women.
Friendships also strengthen when each side discloses personal information, which can include discussing sexual experiences. There's another factor that could foster 'bromosexual' friendships: Recent research has suggested that advice sharing could be a crucial reason that straight women seek out gay men as friends.
In short, women are able to trust the dating advice from gay male friends because they know their gay friends don't have any ulterior motives: We believe that this same sort of unbiased advice sharing might also foster friendships between gay and straight men. There's a prevailing belief that men — regardless of their sexual orientation — are more sexually promiscuous than women. For this reason, women are often wary of their suitors' true intentions, which could be to deceive them in order to have sex.
Because of the trust women engender from straight women, gay men are uniquely positioned to be excellent 'wing men' for single straight men. The increasing popularity of dating websites and apps which are rife with unwanted sexual advances from 'nice guys' has made women more skeptical — and has made it that much harder for men genuinely seeking long-term relationships.
However, straight women do tend to trust the dating advice of gay men especially more than advice from straight men or women. Accordingly, straight men could get a leg up in dating from becoming close friends with gay men. For example, a gay friend could vouch for his straight friend's good intentions to women. A straight wing man wouldn't be able to perform this tactic as successfully because the woman might be skeptical of the straight wing man's own intentions — which could be to woo the woman for himself.
Straight men who are comfortable with their sexuality may also act as wing men for gay male friends. We believe that having a trustworthy confidant to help with romantic pursuits is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leaving the comfort of their same-sex, same-orientation friend groups to form 'bromosexual' friendships. Eric Russell , Ph. Student in Psychology, Wilfrid Laurier University. This article was originally published on The Conversation.
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