From about 12 — 18 years of age, we learn about peer love. Who we are and what we make of our lives is totally up to us. How we feel about ourselves is up to us. The beliefs we have about ourselves will determine the level of self esteem and self worth we have. All of our thoughts and feelings, choices and decisions, actions and reactions are a result of our beliefs.
Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Do you have difficulty figuring out what to say when you tap, how to word EFT Tapping statements? Has your self esteem been an issue? Ron had driven a semi-trailer truck for 30 years for the same company. To celebrate his 60th birthday and 30 years of service, his company had a celebration for him. This Kindle Book gives you the exact statements that Ron tapped to heal his lack of self esteem, self respect, and self-pride.
Would be good to use in a workshop. Kindle Edition , 76 pages. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. Lists with This Book. This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Sometimes the first round of tapping doesn't completely eliminate a problem because a new issue or issues that prevent further progress show themselves via the tapping. These issues — whether images, conversations, interactions or in some other form — are in some way related to the first problem being addressed — sometimes they are part of or the core of the cause, sometimes they are a result.
The barrier restricting your emotional health, in other words, is made up of more than one brick — and you must eliminate all the bricks. If this is the case, you should do additional rounds of tapping as necessary to eliminate all the issues, but adjust your affirmation slightly as follows for best results:. Note the words "still" and "some" and how they change the thrust of the affirmation toward the remainder of the problem. Clinicians and clients should only do what feels right or good to them.
You should not enter into emotional or physical waters that seem threatening. It is your responsibility to take care of yourselves in this setting. Remember professional help is easily available. Here are some cautions and advice with EFT:. It is essential for clinicians to be extremely specific with language when using EFT.
The clients need to be totally tuned in to the issue of concern when using EFT. Sometimes, when the material is emotionally painful, clients will want to disconnect from their feelings. Look for any signs that the client is becoming distracted or disengaged and make sure that they repeat the Reminder Phrase as they tap the treatment points.
As with energy movement, it is essential to pay attention to the cognitive shifts that can occur with even a single round of the tapping. A cognitive shift has occurred when you reframe the problem. Seeing the problem from a new angle, you will often express a sense of surprise and insight. These movements can offer valuable connections and associations and may open new pathways for healing. Following a cognitive shift, you often feel less guilt and self-blame, more hope, or a simple sense of relief in an area where there has never been relief before.
It is important to stop after tapping and see if you notice anything different or if something new came up after you tapped. This is frequently the underlying issue that is the real root of your problem. Many clients report that they do not have the same success when using EFT by themselves and on themselves. This likely has to do, in part, with the advantage of combining the energy and intention of two people sharing a single purpose during a session. When clients are less than satisfied with their own results, it is best to find a therapist to help them resolve the issue at a deeper level.
This is one of Gary Craig's other favorite sayings. The healing is done through us if our clients are open to receive it. Many people see themselves as special healers. This, in fact, interferes with the treatment process. The reality is that they are not healing anybody; the clients are actually healing themselves. Witnessing and facilitating this process is humbling as well as gratifying. Water conducts electricity, and EFT accesses the electrical energy that flows through our bodies and minds.
It is very important for both you and your clients to be properly hydrated. That would be about one quart of pure water per day for every 50 pounds of body weight. Doing affirmations is one of the best ways to be kind to your mind, every thought you have, every sentence you speak is an affirmation of a sort. It is either positive or negative. However, you can also do specific intentional affirmations. And the beautiful thing about doing affirmations is that you can radically improve the effectiveness with EFT.
You can do this by first creating a definite positive statement that builds you up instead of beats you up. We're talking about definite positive statements to make or do, something in our lives or to create a specific goal. You can start this process with positive self-statements.
Even if it doesn't feel true to begin with, you will want to do these statements or affirmations many times a day. When you wake up, when you go to bed, every time you go to the bathroom you should say them. It is especially important to tap and say the affirmations before you go to sleep. This is probably the single most important time to do it. I can't encourage you enough to do the EFT affirmations every night. It is one of the most important principles I can give you. When you tap before you go to bed you will give your subconscious from six to eight hours to work on your affirmations and help create them for you.
If you find prayer a helpful resource like I do, you will want to integrate your prayer into the EFT sequences as I believe that will help dramatically increase the effectiveness of your affirmations. It took me a nearly a year after learning EFT before I got in the habit of tapping before going to bed, but I want you to avoid my mistake and not wait awhile before you start doing this valuable technique. Start tapping each and every night before you go to bed.
This is actually quite simple and inexpensive; all you need is a mirror and some time.
You can certainly tap alone or in the dark, but I find it is far more effective to tap while staring at your own eyes, in the mirror. This seems to provide a far deeper connection with your subconscious.
It's almost as if the mirror is reflecting back your energy into you rather than going out into space somewhere. If you haven't tried this yet you really need to consider doing this profoundly simple yet powerful technique. Pay careful attention and listen to what you hear, especially focusing on any negative messages that can be blocking your progress. You may not get any messages initially because you are so used to beating yourself up and you are not used to a kind loving thought, but listen and follow through and learn to trust yourself.
We frequently have a tendency to beat ourselves up for every little thing no matter how small. All of us can use forgiveness on a daily basis and you can use the mirror to help you here also. You can start by looking into your own eyes and say, "Even though I wasn't successful or I was angry or impatient or mean or cruel," or whatever problem you need to forgive yourself for then say, "I forgive you, I was only doing the best I could.
I forgive you for holding onto those patterns for too long, I forgive you for not loving yourself. You have to try this as it is quite powerful. Remember to always acknowledge the negative thought if it is there, but don't give it a lot of importance. Then you will want to use EFT on the negative thought that comes up and create a positive opposite.
A very common occurrence that will present itself is when you start to tap for a food craving, you will have a memory of an image, person, place or event that the craving reminds you of.
There are a number of acupuncture meridians on your fingertips, and when you tap with your fingertips you are also likely using not only the meridians you are tapping on, but also the ones on your fingers. It is not enough to choose to have a "new apartment," because a "new apartment" might be a dingy 6th story walk-up with poor heating, tiny rooms, etc. You can start this process with positive self-statements. Water conducts electricity, and EFT accesses the electrical energy that flows through our bodies and minds. It will also be enormously helpful if you can do this in front of a mirror, paying careful attention to looking into your eyes.
When you are doing the tapping sequences, you will want to pay special attention to these usually negative thoughts or images that come up. Carefully listen for any statements that your subconscious is telling you are not right or true for you. This is writing on your wall and causing a psycho-energetic block, and unless you address that reversal is not going to allow you to progress forward. This is usually the major challenge for you and one of the primary reasons as to why you have been able to successfully implement your goal in the past.
Unless you directly address this issue by some means, it invariably will self-sabotage your efforts to achieve your weight loss goal.
Fortunately the solution is quite straightforward with EFT, you simply acknowledge whatever self-critical thoughts, images or feelings come up and then chose to simply love and accept yourself while taping on your acupuncture meridians. Do this persistently and eventually your system will improve with time. Remember to say your statements with great enthusiasm and all the emotions you can muster. Your subconscious mind will not convert your affirmations into reality unless you can tie the statements in with emotional energy.
Let me provide a few examples to more fully illustrate my point. When I once gave an EFT demonstration in front of clinical nutritionists and I had a volunteer come up who had a food craving. It turns out the physician who volunteered had a craving for Rice Krispy treats that were in the exhibit area. Her craving was a strong As soon as we did one round of tapping, her eyes started to water and she was on the verge of tears. So the real issue had nothing to do with her craving for the treats but it was the love and attention that her mother did not give her and the clearly inferior candy substitute that her mother offered her.
We tapped on that issue and her cravings for the sweets disappeared instantly. Another example would be a woman I saw who was 64 years old and was having trouble losing weight. When we started the EFT affirmation sequence, she had a memory of how the last time she was her normal goal weight she was pregnant. Even though consciously she very well knew that short of a miracle, she was not going to become pregnant at 64, she was blocked from going forward with her weight loss.
Her subconscious was convinced that if she achieved her goal weight she would instantly and immediately become pregnant. Fortunately, we were able to use EFT to bridge the gap to the subconscious and connect it back to reality. Once we completed tapping that issue through, she was able to successfully lose the 22 pounds of weight she had been unable to do for over 20 years. This is a very powerful illustration that the subconscious is absolutely neutral.
Remember your subconscious is your faithful servant and it will provide you with exactly what you tell it. In many ways it is like your computer. It will perform whatever instructions you tell it. So you must be very careful of the instructions you provide. The above story illustrates a negative example of the power of the subconscious, but you could just as easily implant positive affirmations and your subconscious will just as reliably provide you with that result in your life.
I offer some practical suggestions on how to take advantage of this principle below. When you first say an affirmation, it may not seem to be true. Please remember that affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground. It helps if you think of our mind like a garden in which your thoughts are seeds that you are planting. When you do these affirmations, it is like putting a new seed into the ground. Remember when you plant a seed in the ground, you only have a little tiny seed, you don't have a full-grown plant.
That little seed needs to germinate. Then it breaks open its little shell and it starts to get nourishment from the earth. Then first the roots come out and then and only then does that first little shoot come out through the ground. Just like it takes some time to go from seed to a full-grown plant, it takes some time from your first affirmation to the realization of your goal. It doesn't matter whether you see the results or you don't see them. You have to trust that it just takes time.
When a fear thought comes up, simply say thanks for sharing, thank you for protecting me. Do not give it power. Don't run from it. Whatever comes up, it is very important to acknowledge it, when you hear them you can even write them down. Once you have written the fear thought down, you can turn it around to a positive affirmation and tap it in with EFT. You can say, "even though I have this fear name the fear , I deeply love and accept myself and I fully appreciate that it is only trying to help me.
Then do an affirmation for what you really want, which is typically the positive present tense opposite of the fear, or whatever positive outcome you would desire instead of the fear. Avoid denying the fear. You always want to acknowledge the fear. That is the real beauty of EFT, it always acknowledges the truth and helps you get out of the denial trap that so many of us fall into.
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EFT helps you understand that your fear thought is there to protect you. That is what fear really is for, to protect us. It is important to recognize that no matter where you are in life, no matter what you contributed to creating, no matter what is happening, you are always doing the best you can with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you have until you can find a better way to handle the situation.
A critical truth that is helpful to remember when doing this work is that your persistent and consistent thoughts will eventually become your reality so be careful to only focus on positive thoughts. So many people do EFT affirmations for a few days, they say it doesn't work and they stop. Remember, everything happens in a perfect time space sequence.
You want to trust that and we want to know that. Fortunately, EFT seems to rapidly accelerate not only the time at which your goal is realized, but the likelihood for your success. From my experience it is one of the most profoundly effective ways to maximize the success of your affirmations. Be sure to always remember to say your positive statements in the present tense. Your subconscious mind is very literal and if you ask it to do something in the future, you may fail to achieve your goals for many long years.
So many of us commonly default to this by force of habit. It takes quite a bit of conscious effort to avoid this non-intentional self-defeating trap. So always avoid saying I will have or I am going to have, which is in the future tense. Always say your affirmation in the present tense, otherwise you run the serious risk of delay of you obtaining what you want and you may never get it.
However, the more I studied this issue, the more I realized that self-love is at the core of the problem with most of our issues. Now when I talk about loving yourself I'm not talking about vanity or arrogance but talking about really respecting and cherishing the incredible miracle that you really are. You cannot harm yourself, or you cannot harm another person if you love yourself.